About Sex Education

Internationally, sex-ed has always been a rather prudish problem to talk about. Parents would turn their heads away, teachers are not comfortable to disclose such subject in front of a class of curious and innocent eyes, and children, are curious in essence, they find their own ways of understanding sex.

Sex is already not A subject to talk about, it’s THE subject to educate our younger generations, who have no previous experience on sex.

Also, how society values sex is crucially important towards how sex-ed performs in a country. Sex-ed does not necessarily have to be between teachers and students, it can also come from multiple sources to form a basic understanding of sex for underage people.

The 80s in the States was already open enough for sex in the country. I find it rather hard to discuss this topic in English since western cultures are rather comfortable and free to the subject. Countries like India, China and Iran do have prudish attitudes towards sex and they ban the hell out of it.

About sex-ed, it’s a must subject for every adolescent. In the education, we as the experienced generations should lecture these innocent souls about the meaning of sex and how to safely protect themselves.

Sex, in essence, is a tool of pleasure. This is the basic understanding of sex before the whole education.

Then, it comes to two big topics–Contraception and STDs.

However one and the other one should enjoy their sexual experience should be left free to the inexperienced to explore, and understand their own bodies. We elders have no say on these matters since there are already enough resources for these “kids” to know how to enjoy better.


To enjoy a great sex experience, one should beforehand understand contraception. It’s a matter of pregnancy or not.

In a society when people gain the physical ability to bear children, it does not necessarily mean they can bear the consequences and responsibilities.

Here’s when contraception comes in.

There are a number of contraceptive methods:

  1. The most common one would be Male Condoms. They are easy to use, and a great way to prevent STDs. However, one should perfectly and correctly use condoms to prevent actual pregnancy. Here’s the procedure.

    remove condom from wrapper

    Carefully open and remove condom from wrapper.

    Place condom

    Place condom on the head of the erect, hard penis. If uncircumcised, pull back the foreskin first.

    Pinch air out of the tip of condom

    Pinch air out of the tip of the condom.

    Unroll condom

    Unroll condom all the way down the penis.

    pulling out condom

    After sex but before pulling out, hold the condom at the base. Then pull out, while holding the condom in place.

    remove the condom and throw it in the trash

    Carefully remove the condom and throw it in the trash.

    Knowing that it is a 98% successful rate to prevent pregnancy using a male condom. Before using a condom, you need to read the instruction carefully. Also, check the expiration date, whether the condom is broken and the features of a condom. Some condoms have a semen reservoir, some don’t.

  2. Female Condoms. Easy to use female condoms, the main purpose of it is to isolate semen from vagina, it works the same way as the male condoms. Read the instruction carefully and check expiration date and the features of it.
    The pregnancy prevent rate of it is 95%.
  3. Cervical Cap; Contraceptive Sponge; Diaphragm Birth Control. These contraceptive methods are more or less the same, they are put to the cervical entrance, and they themselves have chemical materials that kill semen.
    The pregnancy prevent rate of it is 94%.

    Diaphragm Birth Control
    Cervical Cap
    Contraceptive Sponge
  4. IUD(Intrauterine Device). The most effective way of contraception, pregnancy prevent rate is at 99.99%. IUD is a physical device that is inserted into a woman’s womb, first it physically prevents eggs from entering the womb, second it utilizes its own chemical hormones or physical materials (copper) to effectively kill off semen.
    By using an IUD, in it effective period (3-5 years), a woman would not experience period anymore, and one can enjoy sex as much as she wants.
    However, some women feel nauseous because of the IUD inside the body, it is a normal reaction. But if one experiences severe bodily reactions, one should seek medical assistance immediately and rid the IUD.

  5. Contraceptive Pills. Contraceptive pills usually have two types–general contraceptive pills and emergency contraceptive pills. It includes a combination of an estrogen and a progestogen. When taken correctly, it alters the menstrual cycle to eliminate ovulation and prevent pregnancy. Short term contraceptive pills have no side effects, however one needs to take it daily in order to achieve contraception. Long term contraceptive pills needs one to take it twice or thrice a month, however it does have small side effects, it may cause endocrine disorders.
    Whether to take emergency contraceptive pills depends on the pills. The notion that emergency pills can cause sterilization is false, but the pills do have a much lower pregnancy prevention rate than regular pills, because after the semens enter uterus, you can’t guarantee the egg doesn’t collide with sperms.
    Regular pills have a success rate of 99%, and emergency for 85%.

Here, I’m going to talk about the success rate a little bit. The above success rates all have one prerequisite–you need to execute the procedures 100% correctly and perfectly, and for every single time. Only after this, there is the success rate to talk about.

The success rate is calculated like the following: We put 100 couples into the test group. And record these 100 couples in a span of 1 year. All of them use the same type of birth control method. In the end, we see how many of them get pregnant. For example, 100 couples use male condoms correctly for 1 year, in the end, there are still two couples pregnant.

Because every single person is different physically, the prevention rate depends on the individual. And as a matter of fact, all of birth control products would label clearly that “No birth control method is 100% successful.”

In addition to this, not everyone can execute procedures of these birth controls 100% perfectly. So in reality, all success rates need to minus 20%-30%, in order to get the realistic success rates. For instance, if one uses male condoms 5 times, can he guarantee every single time he uses it correctly? So, the overall success rate becomes 70%-80%.

And this is why you should read the instructions of birth control methods carefully before having fun, and go consult your medical assistants.

Accidental Pregnancy

Usually accidental pregnancy is always the leverage in abortion debate. Generally, people will have unexpected pregnancy.

I talked about this topic with my good friend in a conversation.

There are many ways to cause accidental pregnancy, hence, accidental. Praise the lord of arbitrariness. You can have, like, a failed birth control, accidental contacts, small odds events. (In WW2, a german soldier’s testicles were penetrated by a bullet, and the bullet landed at a woman’s womb, or shot through. The woman later was recovered, however she got pregnant.)

But for accidental pregnancy, it’s usually about consequences, rather than causes.

So I think, the male party should have a really decisive and responsible attitude for accidental pregnancy.

I don’t think, when you have unexpected pregnancy, you should just go abortion, pronto. That sounds absurd to me.

I understand it is unexpected, who would want something they are not expecting? Right? Well it can be a good or bad thing, depends.

But the point is, many times, people should the unexpectedness, even they are going to ditch it in the end.

For me, mistakes happen. Even though one tries his best to eliminate, or minimize mistakes, there are still mistakes going to happen.

For example, if your work is ruined by a mistake done by others, do you just set charges on your work and make it explode? I don’t think that would be anyone’s rational doing.

You will try to amend. Even the mistakes are not done by you, you still feel the need to treasure your work.

This is the same with women.

If mistakes are done by you, you will take more care into it and make it happen.

There are, always, mistakes. What we try to do, is just to minimize them, as much as possible.

This is as far as I want to delve in abortion, for more, see About Abortion. 

STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases)

STDs are there, they are just there. Like a cold, you will just catch it. Although the chances are relevant.

Most STDs share a common feature–latency. They don’t cause much troubles while laying dormant inside your body, once they have copied enough of themselves, there starts a breakout.

By categories, STDs can be divided into either virus-infected, or bacterium-or-fungus-infected.

Usually the virus ones are hard to cure, but the bacteria and fungi situations can be cured by antibiotics.

Still, the point of STDs is prevention, rather than treatment. You should note yourself before having sex, the possibility of contracting a STD. So, prevention, not treatment. Before you get yourself all stoked up, calm down and talk to your partner about this topic, communication. Some people may think it’s dirty to talk about, but, it’s really not, it’s about scientific understanding and to carefully protect yourselves from harm.


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